You Are Not Your Divorce, Your Debt, or Your Rock Bottom

How to Step Off the Treadmill of Shame and Start Again

What if the exhaustion, anxiety, or shame you’ve been feeling... wasn’t just stress, but a sign that you’re carrying something that was never meant to be yours?

Most of the women I work with don’t come to me saying, “I’m stuck in shame.”

They come to me saying, “I’m just tired.”
Or, “I can’t seem to get myself together.”
Or, “I should be over this by now.”

They’ve gone through something—divorce, financial hardship, a major move—and instead of seeing it as something that happened, they’ve started to see it as something they are.

“I am my divorce.”
“I am my bankruptcy.”
“I am the one who failed.”

They don’t know that they’re carrying shame.

They don’t see how exhaustion and anxiety are symptoms of internalized blame.

They know they feel stuck, and they believe it must be their fault.

And to make it worse? They think they’re the only one who feels this way.

But here’s the truth:
You are not your situation.

You are not broken.

And you are most definitely not alone.

There is a way to step off the treadmill of shame, anxiety, and self-judgment—and begin to see yourself through a new lens.

From Shame to Clarity: Where the Shift Begins

The first step is to pause and ask: Where did this belief come from?
Was it something a partner told you?
A financial setback that made you question your worth?
A life transition that shook your identity?

Most of the pain we carry isn’t just from what happened—it’s from the meaning we made of it.

And here's the most powerful shift: If you were taught to believe something negative about yourself… you can choose to believe something new.

This is what I help my clients do:
We identify the inner story that’s running the show
We ask where it came from—and if it still deserves a place in your life
We flip the belief and build something stronger in its place

Because if you can believe the worst about yourself... You can also believe the best.

Yes, It’s Possible

I’ve seen women go from feeling completely defeated—convinced they were “too far gone”—to standing tall, grounded in a new truth:

“I am not a failure. I’m someone who made it through.”
“I am allowed to start over.”
“I deserve joy. And I’m allowed to go get it.”

When we do the work of looking inward—not with judgment, but with curiosity—we don’t just heal. We transform.

That’s when the canvas clears.

That’s when we create something new.

Book Your Clarity Call

If any part of this spoke to you—if you’re feeling like you’re ready to step off the treadmill and create a new story—I’d love to support you.

I offer a Clarity Call, a warm and non-judgmental space where you can finally say what’s on your heart, unpack what’s been weighing you down, and imagine what’s possible next.

No pressure. Just you, being seen and supported.

Book your free Clarity Call here: https://www.lisabien.com/contact